you should always name your objects and keep the outliner comfortable for selecting any object. Also you can use display layers for selecting groups of objects that you want to associate together for selection (and not grouping).
In your Maya interface - under the file, edit, modify etc. bar there is a series of buttons (8 of them) which enable you to select certain aspects (or choose to disable selection) like surfaces, joints, locators, curves etc.
Lastly in your active view there is a tab called - show. You can use the options there to show \ hide any aspects of your scene - like polys, nurbs, lights, joints, etc.
hope that helped,.
p.s. checked out your site and I like your work. Especially the 2d stuff.