…Doing HDR does help, that’s for sure, but it doesn’t seem accurate to real life (at least not for me).
That’s because changing the exposure doesn’t affect any other aspects of the image. That’s more similar to changing the film speed. Exposure’s values increments are however accurate.
I was refering to all the tech stuff in your post.
Sorry for that too. Technical terminology is inevitable to keep short some posts:
EVs= Exposure Values (amount of light that hits the film)
LCS= Linear Color Space (by working in linear workflow)
S-Curve= S-shaped curve or DlogE curve (film density vs. log of exposure)
Log2= logarithm (base 2) - don’t worry about a log10 conversion, take a look at this calc
Btw, Blochi explains that terminology in a very understandable and practical way in his HDRI HandBook (very good reading for CG professionals and photographers) 
Seeing how LW works now, we can suppose that it has all requirements to implement a physical camera without any problem. 'Till then, people won’t be able to solve all that within LW only (in several cases is even desirable to solve all that in post). But in both cases and as you have noticed, we need observation (and if it’s possible, some understanding) about how these things work in reality to make some consistent adjustments in LW and post.
Gerardo