Is the Sew force of any use in this case? It sounds almost custom-made to handle this kind of situation, if the Syflex docs are accurate:
[i]This force creates a stitch between 2 edges of the same cloth. The edges must be at the same place.
Select vertices of the cloth, and choose “Sew” from the menu. Then specify the maximum distance between each point. The vertices selected must be pairs of vertices at the same position. Two kind of springs are created:
- “sew” springs, connecting the vertices on the edge of the cloth
- bending springs, that allow to keep the bending properties of the cloth
The stiffness of the bending spring must have the same value as the cloth bending stiffness. The “sew” stiffness must be stronger, to ensure that the stitched points stay together.[/i]